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Happy Holidays or Merry Christmas?

“A blended family and a prodigal typically go hand in hand.”

–Matt Thiessen, CRU

“And she shall bring forth a son; and thou shalt call his name Jesus; for it is he that shall save his people from their sins.” — Matthew 1:21


Is it Happy Holidays or Merry Christmas? 


Oh, I know the politically correct term – “Happy Holidays.”

But there’s another twist on that phrase – are your holidays “Merry” and “Happy”?

I used to hate Christmas in the 90’s, because it reminded me of pain. The pain of divorce.

This year I feel for many of my friends & family, because they’ve lost loved ones to cancer, heart attacks, and pneumonia.

Add to that, our children and grandchildren experience developmental grief, and mixed family traditions when you’re blended.

Diane Fromme, author of Step-Parenting the Grieving Child wrote,

“The holidays are upon us once again. It’s the time of year when families come together to celebrate the fact they are just that, family. But what is meant to be a time of thankfulness and celebration for many is also a time of pain and hopelessness for many others. The feelings of grief and loss are magnified during the holiday season. The void of an absent loved one is felt with every opening of a door and every pass of a holiday dish. The death of a parent or significant person can turn what would be reasons for celebration into reminders of heartache. This is a time marked by feelings of loneliness for many grieving children.”

So how do you get through the holidays?

How do you help your children get through too?

How can you rejoice and make them “Merry” and “Happy”?


That’s why he came!

That’s how I get through – I remember Emmanuel, God is with me.

Focusing on the real gift of Christmas can be more difficult when a blended family gets together.

But look for ways to help the family focus on Jesus. FamilyLife, for example, offers some creative questions to do just that.

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